Against Ego

Assalamualaikum warrahmatullahi wabarokatuh

Hello dear? How are you? I hope you are in the greatest of mind and health and always in His protection.

I have some problem with my ego. I know that my ego is massive and maybe I can insulte people around me. I awake about this. I hope, I can handle my ego to be good way. Hmm.. Sometimes, when I feel offended, my heart feel like can’t accepted that. That I’m not like that. When I feel more insult and hurt, I just can cry and feeling more peace when I do salah. I feel more relieved. And wish that Allah give me more strange, resist this ego and establishing that I’m not like that. I really don’t want people getting hurt because of me L.

Hopefully, someone or you (reader), if I have mistaken to you, please forgive me. I was just sort of experiencing the rush of feeling guilty and bad at the same time. I really apologize..

Please always remind me to be good Muslimah J

Maybe this guidence can help us how to handle ego and emotional in good way .. Bismillah

Some notes I scribbled from the video on how to overcome the feeling–

1.       Rememberance Of Allah

·         Not just mere words for the sake of uttering, but mean the words.

·         Alhamdulillah- Thank Allah and praising him.

·         Jazakallahu Khair – Make dua with a clean heart for that person and again mean those words.

·         You have to Learn to be uncomfortable with praise! Learn to be quick to give credit to Allah and put yourself down! “I dont need your praise, I need your duas”

·         When somebody comes and says some nasty thing to you, it might actually be a gift from Allah, because it teaches you humility.

2.       Keep a good company.

Company of people who are better than yourself.

3.       Learn to serve people for the sake of Allah

·         You dont have to do every good deed at once, Keep it gradual, its ok- take it easy!

·         Change your attitude, change you intention!

·         Your job is the effort, HIS job is the result! You are not incharge of the results!

·         Ask yourself- Were my efforts seriously for the sake of Allah?

·         Intentions can get rusty, so you got to keep coming back.

4.       Learn to keep your mouth shut when you should.

·         Think – “Are the words that am I going to say to them are they going to make them even more averse to the religion or should I find some other soft way to be bring them close to the religion?”

·         Your job is to Remind!

·         Remind people and you’ll get the benefit. Because you are the first one who gets effected by the reminder.

·         Words come from you, but the effect comes from Allah.

So don’t worry about the results, just do your job.

Further, here are some tips from “Sisterhood, How Muslimah lives around the world” on how to reduce our egos. InshaAllah let us put an effort to kill that ego. May Allah(SWT) help us to be humble always and never let pride and ego manifest our actions. Ameen!

The ego destroys our family relationships, our friendships, our lives and our spiritual well being. It stops us from forgiving, loving and working together. The Islamic sources use various strategies to help us reduce our egos.

1. Reflect upon death. We will all face the grave.
2. Reflect upon your origins. You were once a despised fluid. You were a baby, fully dependent on others.
3. Reflect within yourself. You have the same weaknesses as others. We all sin. We all smile, cry and bleed in the same language.
4. God is the greatest. He deserves all praise.
5. Don’t seek to be right. Seek for things to work.
6. Don’t ask for your rights. Give people their rights.
7. Forgiveness is the highest virtue.
8. We are nothing without God. We have no ultimate value. No ultimate meaning.
9. We don’t know our ends. We may end up worse.
10. Remember everything that you have, and everything that you are, is due to God’s blessings.